Posts Tagged ‘ Project Prepare ’

The Story of Sexy Grammar: My Ovaries & Your Dissertation

“Do you feel that?” I ask the young woman leaning into my body with her eyes shut.
“Uh huh,” she says, concentrating.
“That’s my ovary.
She opens her eyes, elated. “Wow! I felt it! I get it!”

Before I became The Sexy Grammarian, I taught medical students  how to provide comfortable and effective genital exams for Project Prepare, where I still pick up shifts because I love the work so much.

Later, I read my student’s course evaluation: The best thing about this session, she writes, was putting the book knowledge together with the real thing–like feeling an actual ovary. That’s learning!

Providing this kind of radical sex education offers me the thrill and sacred duty of applying theory to the 3-dimensional world. Dissertations and other big academic writing projects require enthusiasm for the same scientific magic. You’ve got to write about what you’ve learned and how it applies to real life. That’s why I love helping people finish their degrees and find joy, pride, and satisfaction in their work.

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NaNoWriMo Day 10: Embracing Distraction

Word count goal: 16667

Current count: 15004

How can she blog at a time like this? She is sixteen hundred words behind!

That’s part of the beauty and trauma of NaNoWriMo. One minute I’m right on schedule, and the next minute, I’m thousands of words behind. Don’t worry, I will make my goal today, probably late tonight after teaching twelve fantastic medical students how to perform an empowering and comfortable breast exam.

Yesterday, for example, I didn’t need to write at all!

Yesterday’s Goal: 14285

Word count as of Sunday afternoon: 14300

Then I made the mistake of sleeping last night, and a new day with a new goal snuck right up on me.

But counting words is a distraction, just as posting to my blog is a distraction. For that matter, the three hot new editing and coaching contracts I pumped out this morning are distractions too. So are those twelve medical students. The La Jolla Writer’s Conference was pretty darn distracting too.

But all these distractions feed me and inspire me. Word counting keeps me motivated by creating a sense of urgency. Writing about my process on this blog keeps me sane and honest. My writing services clients inspire me and remind me that my process is also mentorship. Medical students, as I pointed out in the last post, help keep me in my body and inspire me to achieve greatness. At the conference this weekend, I got new ideas for my characters, my plot, and my process.

So, I have to embrace distractions, at least a little.

Another distraction keeps pinging me: the readers of novel #1. My big idea was to finish a first draft of the novel I wrote last year before November 1 this year, to clear my desk and mind for a brand new and totally different project. That idea got bigger when I considered that the best way to truly sweep #1 off my desk would be to hand it over to somebody else.

And so on Halloween weekend, with much trepidation, I passed out 18 copies of novel #1 to enthusiastic and generous friends and colleagues to ask for their feedback. I didn’t expect to hear a peep from anybody until at least December. I fully expected several readers not to finish the thing at all.

But the result has become a lot of delightful distraction. Somebody’s reading it on a plane, wondering if the preacher’s wife beside her is reading over her shoulder. Somebody else’s husband “absconded” with the manuscript. Somebody else almost passed out in a sauna because she was so engrossed. One person is already done reading and ready to give me notes. Another is bursting to tell me how deliciously dirty my writing is.

How can I write novel #2 with all this excitement going on around me? Because it’s not entirely derailing. In many ways, the readers of novel #1 push me forward. The evil voices in my head that ask me why I would write a second novel when #1 is such a mess–well, they are harder to hear in the face of somebody actually reading and enjoying my work.

Wall of Notes, San Francisco, Novemer 2009

NaNoWriMo Day 5: Gratitude

Word Count Goal: 11905

Current Word Count: 8958

Living the uber-heady, type-o-matic novel-in-a-month experience creates a surreal sense that I am just a brain and ten fingertips. But I am much much more than that, and it takes more than a good outline and a stopwatch to survive NaNoWriMo.

I’m so thankful for people around me who are not writing novels this month and who gently remind me that I have a body and I live in a place.

To my wife first, for the preparation, exquisite plating, and service of several nutritious and inspired meals. Also for the sex. And the beautiful home. And for watering the plants. And packing our bags for a weekend away.

To Daniel, for baking cookies.

To Dorothy, for pointing out my not-sustainable behaviors, sticking little needles in all the right places, and forcing me to nap.

To John, for stretching me.

To Michal, for a fabulous new cut and color. (Sorry, I can’t get pics to work this morning!)

To Joe, Rene, Erin, Shaily,  and especially Dawnie D for making space for me with your joyful flexibility.

To my three delightful Stanford students for partnering with me for a powerful physical, emotional, intellectual, and scientific learning experience.

To my Mom, Dad, brother, sister, niece, and the organizers of the La Jolla Writer’s Conference for pulling me away from my life and my project this weekend to bask in family and home for a couple days.

Because a blob of brains and ten fingertips is just not sexy.